I didn't want to double post, since I posted about all of it in Healthy Parenting. But to sum it up, he's like Jekyll and Hyde. If he doesn't get his way, he completely loses it. And I don't mean a normal kiddie tantrum. He has absolutely no control over himself, and he has a huge anger problem. He gets in trouble in school almost every day, for things like throwing tables or his shoes, or crawling under his desk and refusing to come out. He yells and screams, he slams doors and kicks tables, he trashes his room and shoves and kicks me. Then the next minute he's all fine, and totally shocked when he realizes that his actions do have consequences. He lies and steals. He argues, backtalks, is disrespectufl, doesn't listen. And all this is way beyond what's normal for an 8 year old. Taking him ANYwhere in public is soooo embarrassing because of his behavior.
The school psychologist doesn't know what to do with him anymore. The principal doesn't either. I'm scared he'll get kicked out of elementary school.

Don't get me wrong, I love my son to pieces. Which is what makes it so frustrating. I want to help him, I want to see him happy again. But I don't know what to do anymore. I want my house to be filled with laughter, not yelling and screaming and slamming doors and tears. I want my kids to be able to say later on, yeah, I had a happy childhood.