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Originally Posted by Suratji
Were you able to explain your feelings about that? Sometimes my T apologizes for laughing because she thinks it may have offended or hurt me, but for me, it always feels good - that she is there with me and joining me and even maybe making fun of some of my silliness. But I so resonate with her laughter that it feels supportive no matter what.
How can your T know that your laughter isn't real?
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I don't know if she can know if it's real or not.....sometimes I don't know!
It's just that I did say something funny, though it was dark, and I laughed....so she laughed too....
I think she knows that sometimes it is a deflection, but sometimes that it is a reflection of tears really....the trouble is sometimes it is both, sometimes it is neither, sometimes I don't know which it is! So how can she know?!
Some of it is just my perception, the cognitive distortion that I am being laughed at when really I know I am not....that it is a supportive laugh, or a laugh that understands that there are tears behind the laugh....
Because I said, I might as well laugh as cry.....and she said, yes, why not? So it wasn't that bad. It ended up being a shared sort of moment of emotion which I think we both understood was really tears....
Sorry, I think I hijacked the thread with this....sorry SAWE!