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Old Apr 30, 2011, 04:14 AM
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It sucks that you're in this position right now. I know how burdensome depression can be when you keep it from your family. I kept my depression a secret from my dad for well over a year before I opened up to him, and it was the scariest thing I've ever done. It helped that my mother was on board though, and she was there with me when I broke the news. Is there someone you might be more comfortable having with you when you speak to your parents, like another relative or a friend? It could also help to bring your parents along to a doctor or therapy appointment so that a professional can explain the nature of your illness, as well as verify that depression is, indeed, a real illness.

The unfortunate reality is that some people are never going to be very receptive to or understanding of mental illness. There's a massive stigma against depression, and it's not fair but it's something most sufferers are faced with at some point. I'm sorry that your parents might not be understanding of this; it's always rough when you can't rely on your family for support. But the good news is that there are plenty of other people out there you can count on, people who get it and who are supportive and willing to listen. If you decide to tell your parents about your depression, remember that their reaction is not on you. You can't control how they're going to behave and you are not responsible for their negative views of mental illness. There are plenty of people in my life who don't understand my depression, even relatives, and at some point I realized that I couldn't spend my time trying to change their minds when I had more important work to do on myself. Make sure that you put your own mental health first. There is nothing more important than taking care of yourself right now.

Good luck!
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