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Originally Posted by unhappyguy
Trying to plan AND time things appears to be holding you back and possibly causing depression. Please reconsider your statement "i have to have a timing set so I can plan out my day." This is a problematic statement and I disagree with it. No, your day does not have to be strictly timed. Plans usually take longer than expected to execute and if you limit your time to accomplish them - especially if you're depressed - then that thinking could be set up for failure and depression. Let go of your time limitations. It does not matter how long it takes to accomplish things; rather, accomplishing things regardless of the time it takes is what really counts. Try it.
Maybe it's time you went out and explored your new town/city/nation on foot? Walking is free. Try taking walks in the neighborhood; visit the shops (you don't have to buy anything); say hello to people (especially your neighbors); get to know the shop owners; visit the local parks; get some healthy sunshine (a great source of Vitamin D and a nice tan!); practice smiling at others (useful on job interviews / auditions); practice the language or get to know the local English idioms. If you're religious, visit a local church - a great place to meet people. Can you volunteer to participate in play readings? All of the preceding is free. Since you're an actor, consider spending your limited resources on seeing plays - for you they are a great investment as well as a place to meet people with similar interests.
Can you afford a cup of coffee? If so, try hanging at a local coffee shop. Make small talk with the barrister and local patrons. All you have to say is "I'm new here. Tell me about this place." (People generally really like to talk about things they know and their hometown is one of those things.) A cup of coffee (or tea) can be a great investment in achieving your goals. Forget about the time - talk away and meet as many people as you can. Only achieving your goals count for something - not the amount of time you planned to devote to them or how long it actually took to achieve them.
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Hi Unhappy guy, your advice is wonderful, it would work great in US and some other places but unfortunately, I can't chat with the barista... there's are divisions based on jobs here.. and if i chat with the barista, people would think I'm a prostitute.. because no one chit chats with them...
Also, I've already tried the shops and the temples and other things that you mentioned above.. I don't know if its more like I need to deal with my situation because I lose track of longterm .. or what it is...
Also planning chores is not an issue, Its usually making plans to meet with people, because If i don't have atleast one person I'm hanging out in the evening, I feel gloomy i dont know why.. When i have someone to meet in the evening, my day goes so well, I get work done in the day, etc...
I'm just trying to figure out why that is and how to deal with it. Please do let me know if you have anything more you can tell me, youv'e got great advice, I wish I could use it