after reading your response re 19 years she exhibits "The great I am." so sorry you were treated this way. it's not appropriate to do this even if we plan not to sponsor someone anymore. she disrespected you. the very least she could do is to tell you that. but as we say in AA, "some of us are sicker than others." it's good you learned now how she works her program or lack thereof in her case. it's not an all or nothing program and sponsors cannot demand sponsees doing things exactly as suggested. it's a personal choice and one that is yours. btw she isn't pure as the driven snow either tho she apprantly thinks she is.
of course you have to find your own path but please know not all sponsors are this way. it saddens me to hear your story and the negative effect she had on you. when someone asks me to sponsor them i suggest to my sponsee to do the same as a common courtesy to their former sponsor.
in therapy you can discuss this experience with your T. so glad you have that support system in place. you know already i don't mind you pm-ing me if i can be of help.