>>He called us liars. Told us we were ego states. Told us to forget about it. Wanted to shut up what was already silent. He said things like "We work so well together" and then told me I was delusional when I told him he would hurt me. He said things like "I feel like I have to protect you" and favored us above the rest of his clients. He wouldn't let us talk to anyone else. Took over all the positions in our lives.<<

Wow! Listen, LydiaB, you have to really understand that this T was on a major ego trip. Any time a T starts telling you that he "needs to protect" you or limits your contact with others, he is in serious need of his own therapist. Therapy isn't about isolating you or telling you that the T can "cure you". It's about guiding and supporting you, helping you find outside supports. This guy had his own needs and unfortunately you were there and he reeled you in. When things got tough (which they can in therapy with trauma survivors), he got scared and blamed his fear and anxiety on you. It isn't you! It's his incompetence and because he was scared and feeling inadequate, he dumped it all on you. Sometimes it really amazes me that T always talk about transference and projection but forget about countertranferance and their own ability to project ugly uncomfortable feelings onto their clients. They especially forget about those topics when it makes them act crazy LOL And that can happen! I sincerely hope you find a new T who treats you with the respect and care you deserve!