Ah yes, I understand that too, zoo.....Remember that last huge rupture I had with T when he told me to stop emailing him and that he had enough of my abuse? And then I had to sit with it for two days before he got back in touch with me? Those were the hardest days I've ever had...thank goodness for PC, everyone helped me through that awful, awful time....

When T and I finally did talk...and I told him how I don't cope well...he said that this is an opportunity to learn how to cope better....to navigate it better, etc...so we can be more prepared to deal with things of this nature when it happens in other meaningful relationships....

At the time, it was very hard to imagine it being a learning opportunity....