Gosh, I had a message all typed out and it disappeared. Your situation sounds very much like mine--hubby left me suddenly last summer, without warning, and moved to another state where he had a little sweetie he had been writing to. She got him a room and he lived there for six weeks before he came home, to allow us to try to work things out. It is working pretty well now, but I don't trust him. Our T sided with me--said he was to blame and at fault for our troubles that he was blaming on me--he has a conflict phobia and doesn't bring up what is bugging him. My hubby said the same kind of things yours is saying.

Maybe you can write out a letter, so it comes out right, run it by therapist, and then give it to hubby. Ask for 6 months so you can work on his issues. Get his priority and work on that as much as you can, so he sees some kind of improvement over the first few weeks or months. I'm sure he has things he needs to correct too, but you can address that after you've got him calmed down about leaving.

He loved you once. If you can show him some of the person he fell in love with and give him hope for a better relationship in the future, you may be able to work things out. When things get really tough, take in a big, deep breath. Then let it out slowly. Then another. Do this whenever you feel yourself tensing up and stressed out. It will help.

I'm pulling for you! Sending you some hugs, too! (((((((walksinair)))))))