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Originally Posted by zooropa
When I talked to her on Thurs night, when she hung up on me, I was crying and crying and trying to tell her how I felt, saying that I was at the point of complete skills breakdown and I didn't know what to do, and she said "I'm not going to talk to you about that." And I got so frustrated and upset and I said "how can I not be allowed to tell you how I feel? How can I call you for help if you won't tell me what is ok or not ok to say on the phone??" and she just said, I'm not going into that, goodbye.
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My T has said "I'm not going to listen to this" when I have called crying hysterically in emotion mind before. It kind of sounds like your T wants you to call for skills coaching and not for spilling out your feelings while in emotion mind. Did you mention to her that you were cutting and using drugs and alcohol during your complete skills breakdown? I'm asking because if she knows you are engaging in those behaviors to cope, she is not supposed to allow any contact for 24 hours. If you call for skills coaching, it is supposed to be before you act out any bad coping skills. Maybe that is what is happening. If I call crying and saying I need help remembering what skills to use, she will remind me and coach me through. If i'm just crying in emotion mind and have already engaged in a target behavior or something, then no, she is not going to discuss that over the phone. That is to be discussed and worked through during sessions. Phone contact is not supposed to be processing feelings..that is for the actual therapy sessions.
She is definitely not being clear, and as long as she continues with the "call if you want to or need to", then she is opening the door to calling for anything, which is confusing. Gosh, if my t said call anytime you "want" to I would "want" to be calling all the time.