You are probably doing much better in handling the situations you are talking about than you think you are. Remember,you are depressed, so you are likely accepting the negativity which is being heaped on you with the blame you are describing. I did much the same when my husband first left me unexpectedly. When he came back, through therapy, I was able to see that, while I wasn't perfect, hubby was more to blame for the problems than I was.

You express yourself very well here in the forum. I suspect that this behavior (i.e., communication skill) has been echoed in your actions and discussions with the others in your life that are of concern to you. Don't buy into someone else's opinion of you--form your own. You are probably dealing with your situations and relationships far better than you think you are. Just watch a TV reality show--The Housewives of New York, New Jersey, Orange County, Miami--pick any one--all of them are filled with normal people who behave ludicrously in common situations. You are probably doing just fine. You can fine-tune the behaviors you wish without beating yourself up over it.