Thanks for the replies everybody!

As a response, I'd like to say that she's probably one of the most independent girls I've ever met. She is number one in her life, and I find that admirable and she's kind of a role model for me in that aspect because I'm used to putting so much effort into pleasing other people. She's always showing me how important it is to make yourself number one in your life, not your friends, not the relationship, but you. She's very confident and not a bit shy about her body or anything. So I don't believe that's really an issue. Also, she does have a couple years of relationship/intimacy history and I a have bit more than she does. However, there are some big differences between us when it comes to our past relationships: Mine was fast moving, always seeing each other, and had a lot of physical intimacy as where hers developed rather slowly, they could only physically see each other every couple weeks (they spoke and sent texts a lot though), and I'm not sure how often they had sex, I'm assuming just as often as they saw each other.

Anyway, the big thing here is that she takes things slowwwlyyyyy compared to what I know and it is something I had to get used to, but I thought it would be a great lesson to learn. Patience is a virtue after all.

So maybe she isn't shy, per se, but maybe she's just still taking things slowly?

I asked her a while ago about why she never really says I love you to me and she said it was because she just never thought about it. Same with random hugs and what not. I was kind of offended by this in a 'well what do you mean you never really think about it??' way... I have a hard time understanding that. I guess it comes down to personality and experience I guess. Maybe her one ex boyfriend was never openly affectionate or never gave random hugs or anything, and since it's her only major relationship experience, maybe she just picked up on it and based a relationship model off of that?

I've spoken to her about this stuff before and it just makes her feel like she's failing, which just makes me think that she's showing affection in her own ways and I'm just not recognizing it as much as I'd like to. I don't think this is a 'her fault' or 'my fault' issue, but it's a mix of factors really. Nothing that cannot be understood with some thought. What do you guys think?