What are the signs of abuse?

Does your loved one:
<ul type="square">[*]ignore your feelings?[*] disrespect you?[*] ridicule or insult you then tell you its a joke, or that you have no sense of humor?[*] ridicule your beliefs, religion, race, heritage or class?[*] withhold approval, appreciation or affection?[*] give you the silent treatment?[*] walk away without answering you?[*]criticize you, call you names, yell at you?[*] humiliate you privately or in public?[*] roll his or her eyes when you talk?[*] give you a hard time about socializing with your friends or family?[*] make you socialize (and keep up appearances) even when you don't feel well?[*] seem to make sure that what you really want is exactly what you won't get?[*] tell you you are too sensitive?[*] hurt you especially when you are down?[*] seem energized by fighting, while fighting exhausts you?[*]have unpredictable mood swings, alternating from good to bad for no apparent reason?[*] present a wonderful face to the world and is well liked by outsiders?[*] "twist" your words, somehow turning what you said against you?[*]try to control decisions, money, even the way you style your hair or wear your clothes?[*]complain about how badly you treat him or her?[*] threaten to leave, or threaten to throw you out?[*]say things that make you feel good, but do things that make you feel bad?[*] ever left you stranded?[*] ever threaten to hurt you or your family?[*] ever hit or pushed you, even "accidentally"?[*] seem to stir up trouble just when you seem to be getting closer to each other?[*]abuse something you love: a pet, a child, an object?[*]compliment you enough to keep you happy, yet criticize you enough to keep you insecure?[*]promise to never do something hurtful again?[*] harass you about imagined affairs?[*]manipulate you with lies and contradictions?[*]destroy furniture, punch holes in walls, break appliances?[*]drive like a road-rage junkie?[*]act immature and selfish, yet accuse you of those behaviors?[*] question your every move and motive, somehow questioning your competence?[*] interrupt you; hear but not really listen?[*] make you feel like you can't win? damned if you do, damned if you don't?[*]use drugs and/or alcohol involved? are things worse then?[*] incite you to rage, which is "proof" that you are to blame?[*] try to convince you he or she is "right," while you are "wrong?"[*] frequently say things that are later denied or accuse you of misunderstanding?[*]treat you like a sex object, or as though sex should be provided on demand regardless of how you feel?[/list]
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Your situation is critical if the following applies to you:
<ul type="square">[*] You express your opinions less and less freely.[*] You find yourself walking on eggshells, careful of when and how to say something.[*]You long for that softer, more vulnerable part of your partner to emerge.[*] You find yourself making excuses for your partner's behavior.[*]You feel emotionally unsafe.[*] You feel its somehow not OK to talk with others about your relationship.[*] You hope things will change...especially through your love and understanding.[*] You find yourself doubting your memory or sense of reality.[*] You doubt your own judgment.[*] You doubt your abilities.[*] You feel vulnerable and insecure.[*] You are becoming increasingly depressed.[*]You feel increasingly trapped and powerless.[*] You have been or are afraid of your partner.[*]Your partner has physically hurt you, even once.[/list]</font>

excerpt from http://drirene.com/verbal1.htm