Oh, he's like the reformed smoker! You know, the ones who quit and then want everyone else to quit, and DO NOT SMOKE IN MY PRESENCE! Also dieters--those on a diet want to talk about it and get everyone else to join them. I'm sure there's some kind of pyschological syndrome going on here. The nearly-cured want everyone else aboard the "cure-boat." So it might work out really well to explain to him that you now see how you have spiraled downward and need more help to deal with your issues and you won't be satisfied or stop working on them until you get healthy and enjoying life again, for yourself, him, and your kids.

That is really great that he's in therapy too. Hopefully his therapist won't let hm transfer all the blame for relationship problems to you, but help him see his share of them and work on them.

I think you sound motivated to change. That's what is important. You have a vision of your life together and that's what you want to keep. It's tough when you are depressed, as that ruins your energy level. And makes you more sensitive to the hurts around you. But you WILL get better, and I think you can.

A book we found, by an author our therapist recommended, is "I Will Never Leave You", by Hugh and Gayle Prather. We found a copy, with shipping, for only $4 on Amazon.com. We read it to each other, a chapter or half a chapter per night. We took turns reading. It was a great exercise for us. The Prathers say you had reasons for marrying this person; if you accept them with all their faults and work on your relationship (gives you methods to try), you can achieve true happiness together.

Sending you more hugs today!