I have to agree with suratji on this topic. I also googled my T (as I do with everyone important in my life). If I am going to trust him, I need to see him as a human being. The content I discovered wasn't very "telling," but I inferred much about his private life from it (who knows if my inferences are correct).

Swimmergirl-You have GUTS! I can tell my T about my erotic fantasies regarding him, but I can't bring myself to tell him that I checked him out! Guess I thought he would see me as a crazy, stalker type