((((((((((((((zoo)))))))))))))))

I'm not inside your head, but I think I SO get where you're at.

When I have a rupture with T, it's so hard to think of anything else until it's resolved...and luckily for me, T is really good about owning his part and about hearing where I'm coming from and we're able to work through things pretty well (and pretty quickly).

If I felt like T was being sarcastic with me, changing the boundaries in a way that wasn't gentle, giving me hints that I'm doing something "wrong" but not being clear about what it is that I'm supposed to change..anything like what you're going through..it would feel unbearable. It would be REALLY hard to focus on anything else. It makes so much sense to me that you'd be going around and around in your head about it.

I hope your kids coming home helps. I know that if I have down time, it's a lot harder for me to shift my focus. I think most of my phone calls to T happen when I'm driving in the car alone, because it's the only time I have time to be alone in my head. Once I'm in the busy-ness of life, it's a little easier.

Thinking of you, dear zoo