thanks tara and dead
he knows it bothers me
he knows it bothers me to the point of being turned off and then he doesn't get sex or love but even knowing this he keeps talking about it anyways.
this is what I don't understand
because it is counterproduction

and he won't see a therapist even if I think it is logical. He has a block somewhere

thank you all so much for posting
still trying to figure it out

roses