mylife, you sure sound a lot like me...things always seem to get too intense too fast. But any man that could hear about your past abuse and still pressure you for sex is no good. As they say, actions speak louder than words, and even though he says he understands your problems and your needs, to continually ask you about seeing him, and having sex with him, shows that he doesn't understand at all. If you feel like testing this friendship, then lay down the law. Tell him that you are uncomfortable discussing sex, and you will talk about anything else, but if he questions you about sex, you will disconnect...and mean it. If he is worth talking to, he will find something else to talk about. If he can't, then he's not worth knowing.

Good luck...and you know where to find me if you want to chat. : )

*hugs*
mj