(((salukigirl)))

I think that you've answered you own Q as to whether or not this relationship can be successful.

Despite your attempts at maintaining a healthy relationship, your bf isn't playing by the same rules. Personally, I have a thing against martyrism. My mom has played that role for YEARS and it drives me insane! If this tendency of your bf bothers you now ~ chances are real good that it's going to bug the heck out of you in a few years.

I'd brush my hands and knees, take my tissues, and leave him. In my humble opinion, his tendency will not disappear. I wish you the very best ~ take care!