I thnk jinxyjinx is a male - said "A wife who loves and takes care of me."

JinxyJinx - you actually sound like a combination of me and my husband.

He finds pleasure in almost nothing and thinks everything is stupid and pointless but relates well with everybody he works with and friends.
He has a nice house, car and wife (that's me).

I have racing thoughts and can't make decisions. I have a diagnosis and take meds -he will never admit there is something wrong except for "I don't know what's wrong with me..." he will never see a dr.

It is taking a toll on our relationship as he takes out his negativity on me - i think he is disappointed in himself for certain things, like weight and he just had to withdraw from a class he was failing after going back to school at the age of 41 because he didn't really try. When he takes things out on me, I get upset and cry, or withdraw. Neither one works out well.

Having things doesn't make you happy.
You have to be happy within yourself. I don't know if something changed in your life personally or it's deeper....sometimes depression happens for no reason whatsoever. Going to a doctor is a great first step. Sometimes just talking to an unbiased 3rd party can be more help than anything else.

Keep posting here - the people at PC are such a great wealth of information.

Good luck!