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Old May 02, 2011, 03:41 PM
pgm05 pgm05 is offline
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I'm 22 years old and my parents have been divorced since I was 7. I've been dating a guy the same age as me, similar situation as his parents divorced at the same age, since December. This is my first real relationship. I grew up overweight, extremely insecure and surrounded by thin, beautiful girl friends. I was the odd one out and I know it had an affect on who I would become. I have lost a great deal of weight and am so proud of how far I've come in that sense, as well as how much more confident I am in social, work situations. For some reason I still have such a hard time letting my walls down.

My boyfriend is amazing. He's hard working, driven, supportive, affectionate. We're complete opposites but for some reason we fit. He knew in the beginning that I've gone through a lot and that it was going to be hard for me. In exchange, I knew in the beginning that he has a very busy schedule and that although I'm a priority, school and work are too. We understood each other. Now, 5 months into our relationship I truly think I love him, but sometimes I just don't think he "gets" me. I constantly have this fear in my mind that it just can't work out between us. I feel as though I'm the one ruining the relationship. I'm also overly sensitive with him and I think it's because he's the only person in the world I allow myself to be vulnerable around. I think this puts a lot of pressure on him, but I honestly can't help myself. I like to be in control of things and this is something I'm not in control of. Every time I'm upset about something, he wants me to talk to him, but I get so overly emotional that I can't get out my thoughts and then the day after I feel just horrible. I didn't even get to say what I wanted and I just try to keep burying things that bother me. If I seem like I am in a bad mood, he always repeats the same thing, "there are places I could be, like my bed, I go to school, I work and my only free time is spent with you. If I didn't want to be with you, I wouldn't be." The way he says it makes me feel like he's performing a duty, like I'm another duty he has. It just leaves a bad feeling in my stomach. I know I should tell him the truth, but I think I'm afraid of him rejecting my feelings. I also tend to get bad anxiety and that mixed with my insecurities doesn't help. I can't enjoy life like this. I don't know what to do. How can I openly talk to him? Am I being too sensitive? Is this relationship doomed?