when i first started therapy with this t, and things would happen, issues would come up and he would say to me "why don't you just call me" and i would tell him, "i can't" and he would say "can't what" i seriously thought he was kind of stupid in the beginning... seriously.... wondered what i had gotten myself into..

later, i learned that they are trying to build trust and connection and that if you call and they respond positively, you have just gained some more trust in them and the relationship...

took me months, (i think) but eventually i called for every little thing, then got out of that phase

now i only call when necessary, i know that he will be there.... to make appts, or once in awhile because i am in crisis....

just another perspective and how it worked with me...

sending safe hugs