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I’m sorry that you’re having a rough time right now darkfoxx.
It sounds very much like something else is going on. If she instantly starts to cry when you try to talk to her that is warning sign.
A healthy relationship is one of compromise. Your explanation of why you’re in different rooms is, forgive me, childish. Together time is important. That means doing things your partner likes to do just because it is nice to be around them. If you cannot sit through the TV show without being a pest, stick your ear buds in your ears and rub her feet while she’s watching. I have no idea what my husband finds interesting about Southpark, American Dad or WWE. Of course he doesn’t understand my taste in TV either. When he’s watching TV I’ll listen to my ipod or read. Commercials are snuggle time.
Commitment to each other is important. Sit down and discuss back up low/no cost date night plans. Board games or cards can be amazing fun. I recently discovered Netflix. Hubby and I select a series that we’re interested in and watch it together. It helps when we’re both interested so there is that sense of urgency “finish whatever so we can have TV time”. Hell, put some music on and dance in your own living room.
The key to a healthy relationship is communication. You have to figure out a way to communicate your feelings and needs. She is not a mind reader, nor are you. Why is she crying? Is she using the TV or financial issues as excuses not to interact with you? There is a problem here that needs to be sorted out.
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