I want you to know, that I read your post thoroughly and I am so sorry you are going through this. What I have to say may be difficult for you to hear, but you need to hear it..

I will say one thing about this guy, it's good that he is not abusive like the one before. I am so happy you aren't in one of those relationships again. A lot of guys like to feed off of what other people have done and continue it. Plus, a lot of women (and men too) have problems by finding people that do the same thing as the ones in the previous relationship. So again, I give him credit for not abusing you physically.

With that being said, this is not the guy for you. He seems completely untrustworthy to me. I don't believe a word he has said to you and I don't even know him. How would you get an STD from him if he isn't being sexually active with other people? Maybe it's something from before, but it's best not to be with someone who is going to give you an STD anyways. For example, my EX was cheating on me and I got Strep Throat from HER. It was the worst case of Strep Throat my Doctor had ever seen, I was out of work for a long time (and at the time I didn't know I was being cheated on) and I could have died had it turned into Scarlatina or something worse. Turns out while I had Strep Throat she was cheating on me then too.

But anyways (since this is about you, not me) I just feel like that this really isn't the right relationship for you to be in, and I would be very worried if you actually married this jerk.. I guess it's possible that he could be telling the truth but he is still a jerk if he decides to see these women WITHOUT your approval. Marriage is about sacrifice and he isn't making any, YOU ARE. You have EVERY right to be upset, angry, and all of the above. The fact that he talks about these girls, and even about his sexual encounters, is obnoxious and just terrible. You don't say those kind of things around someone you're going to marry, which just leads me to believe that he IS cheating. There's just too many question marks here...

I guess you could try to get some counseling together. Maybe things will come out as to why he does these things and it will be fine, but I still believe it won't work and I think that you have went from one extreme (abuse) to another. I am sorry to say, because I know you deserve someone that will treat you right especially after all you've gone through but this guy just isn't. I know he isn't abusing you but it is almost just as bad that he could be cheating on you with every woman he can get his hands off, and even if he isn't he obviously has no care for your feelings and given the situations you've been in he should understand how you feel.

I don't know what else I have to offer. I just think that this is a player and that you need to get yourself out of the situation but it's easier said than done. You won't be able to get over the stuff he has lied about, unless you just ignore it, and that's not good in a relationship. Relationships need to be open and honest and even though it's coming from your end it ISN'T from his.

I am still at awe about how angry it made me just by reading the post, because I can tell the kind of person he is. I just wish you all the best, and I hope my post didn't upset you or anything like that but it's just how I feel. Keep us updated, and again hope it all goes well for you and you find the right path and take it .