Although I did throw the red herring, I wasn't actually asking, "How do I deal with my overbearing mother?" I already dealt with her, by moving far away and keeping contact to a minimum. I was only using her as an example of someone who sets another person up to fail, so that she can stand taller herself.
It sometimes annoys me when people miss what I really wanted to talk about, and keep going down side streets, but in this case, I know why, because I was too descriptive of my mother. She's not the issue. She's an example of the issue. The real point of the thread, as I intended it, can be found in these paragraphs, especially the bold:
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But I think of times I have been set up by peers. How many times have I been assured something was "cool" when in fact it was making me a laughingstock? Does this happen to others?
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In school I was the one "performing" for the crowd, doing, wearing, or saying what they said was cool, while they offered me what looked like approval but was actually mocking.
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