I would like to say more, but I'm short on time, so I'll just mention that TrimSpa contains Ephedra (although I think they have an Ephedra-free version), and that can be dangerous. Others have given some good information, so I'll just say that what it all comes down to is eating healthy (not starving yourself) and exercising. I'm obese, too, but I've lost the weight before (not like I should have, but I'll talk about that another time), so I'll try to come back and offer a few good tips later. Best of luck, and try not to hate yourself...remember, you're more than your body weight. I hate myself sometimes, too, but I think I'm a pretty good person. Remember your good qualities.