Probe Droid, you had a very lovely comment for "us", you obviously have a very genuine heart, (thank you, for all of us, BTW) and probably one of the very things that attracts her to you.....the others are so right, I'm sure....and she is probably trying to save you from herself...she knows all too well the hell she goes through and probably just wants to save you from it (very familiar to me- and commendable, a very, very unselfish move, especially when you can feel so needy) again, as was said here, you do have to check yourself and be careful not to become overwhelmed with her issues ....especially if she doesn't seek treatment. I would encourage her strongly to get help, that she can, with help, feel better and give herself a better shot at a more normal kind of life...at the least, I hope you can persuade her to come here? I am new, just joined yesterday (a true blessing to me) but, I find these people here extremely devoted to each other, as a sort of "family", and have welcomed me warmly. I also notice that honest advise is given...not just strokes to make someone "feel" better. I admire them for that. This is a truly great group of exceptional people.