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Old May 03, 2011, 11:24 PM
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I want to tell her that I'm sorry I have the needs I have, but I still have them. They are real. I can't make them go away by ignoring them. I don't know what to do.
Can you write that down and tell it to her tomorrow? I'm wondering though. If you saw a different kind of T who would let you call as much as you needed to, do you think you would feel better, or not? Maybe a T will say they will answer phone calls or emails, and then decide it's not good for you, like my T did to me. It's hard to separate what we want from what we need. I want to talk to my T every day, but it wouldn't be good for me.

My former T helped me a lot, but she didn't want to explore my childhood with me, and that's what I wanted to do. She said she was sorry she couldn't solve my "attachment" problem.

Can you ask your T directly if she thinks you and she can still work together?

Only you can decide what to do. Maybe a break, or looking into other Ts would be right for you. Or maybe not. My T says "go with your gut feeling". That's how I ended up with her, and I'm glad I did.

I hope you can get some sleep tonight and not agonize over what will be tomorrow.
Thanks for this!
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