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Originally Posted by LovebirdsFlying
Wow, very interesting!
You know, I am sometimes awed by my two daughters. I've often felt that anything I can do, one or the other or both of them can do better. But that makes me feel *proud* not *envious.* And when one of them shows a trait I don't have, like the ability to stand up for herself without fear of being called a "smart-aleck kid," I think, "That's my girl."
Those butchered home haircuts.... ugh. I got so many of them. I also remember one day, I was around 10, she sat me down and, just feeling silly, started doing my hair in some outrageous, unconventional way I knew everybody was going to laugh at when I got to school. I told her I didn't like it and that I was going to take it down as soon as I got away. Well, she took it down, (good) but then she yelled at me about how she would never have said such a thing to her mother, because she had more respect.
Well, I seriously doubt Mammaw would have sent my mother to school with a deliberately ridiculous hair style. Why did she WANT me to go to school looking funny, when she already knew I got laughed at and bullied enough as it was? I'll never understand, unless it's that "eliminating the competition" thing.
More mother-to-English dictionary:
"Smart-aleck" = "anyone who disagrees with me."
"Kid" = "anyone younger than I am, even if they are a legal adult."
"Respect" = "shutting up and not saying how you feel."
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Good thing your away from your mother. The behavior she was displaying was constant devaluing you. Now, you need to know that it is over, draw the line, set boundaries for yourself. No more letting others talk you into changing the way you want to express yourself. Think of lady gaga, if she can do all that crazy stuff, everyone else should be able to do what they want without permission from piers or parents. People do all sorts of things now, purple hair, and orange hair, I never know what Im going to see next.
There is nothing wrong with being a full figured woman. Just make sure you eat right and get exercise thats all. Next time anyone trys to tell you how to dress, make sure they know they can go out an buy a doll and dress that, you are done.
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