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Originally Posted by JeanneDoe
I think sometimes when we are desperate for friendship we sometimes take what we can get.. Do you feel that was the case for you? Is he really someone you would be friends with if you were not lonely at the time?
Do you really click with him? Or are you just his friend out of sympathy?
I dont think its fair to him, to pretend to a friendship you are not really into. If you do want to be his friend and enjoy his company and conversations when he is not being weird. I would def. keep him around.
I would then tell him, lightly.. that sometimes he makes you uncomfortable. Maybe explain to him that some of his behavior has made people uncomfortable.
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I can feel my mood sliding because of this. I could retreat back into depression, but I'm going to resist.
I don't know that I've ever really clicked with him, but I tell myself that friendships aren't always about laughing and joking. We do talk about music, but even those conversations feel stilted. I'm not responsible for his happiness, but I would like to see him improve and fit in. I don't know if that's an ego thing, like I could take credit for him getting better.
Also, he was born here, but his cultural background is quite different from mainstream American.
My thoughts are so jumbled on this. It's disrupting my concentration more than I thought it would. It's making me wonder whether I'm a good person or not. I just feel like you can't give up on people because they're not perfect. At the same time, I don't really fault others for avoiding him.
I'll have to write more later.