For as long as I can remember have always been so good at anticipating others needs (even as a chilld) and where possible meeting them - I now realise that this has been very detrimental to me.

My T has been asking me about my needs and I have absolutely no idea what they are or how to go about identifying them - it sort of feels selfish to have needs and even worse to express them, although I don't use this same judegment on other people.

How do you identify needs?