I think you took the very first positive step in realizing this is detrimental to your well being. I think women especially are people pleasers because we're often the caretakers. Sometimes we learn this role as children, when we have a needy parent who needs appeasing all the time - "I have to be good to get approval" thinking.

I think one of the most valuable things you can do is learn how to say "no" sometimes and not feel guilty or the need to give excuses. Your needs....depends on what you like to do with your spare time and realizing it's okay to ask someone to help you sometimes. Here's a good website you might find helpful:

http://www.livestrong.com/article/14...g-personality/