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Originally Posted by walksinair
online user.. husbands therapist is less than supportive of me in my opinion, I
went with to quite a few of his sessions, he decided that there was no point in my
coming because "i was not willing to get better" he came up with these excercises
for me like since i dont usually wash the dishes just wash the plates and leave the other
stuff. well i get sidetracked enough so i felt like this was stupid my problem was not
finishing things so he gives me an excercise were i dont finish a chore.. he
believes i use my depression and ADD as a crutch or excuse. this is what my husband
thinks so his T just added fuel to the fire. he basically told hubby the he wont get
healthy as long as he is with me. So basically all the problems we have are my fault.
his first wife was terrible and that is another story all in itself, well i guess i am just like
Her according to the T . I have my first seeion with my therapist on thursday so will go from there.
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omg, sounds like it's two against one! So sorry this is happening to you. Good that you are going to another therapist. Will be really interesting to see what he/she says on all this.
My husband was quite upset with our therapist for a few sessions, when T was heaping all the problems on him. Yesterday T came out and said that I won't be fully happy till I'm OK to be without hubby; see a life on my own as possible. He said I'm the "needy" one who wants hubby--hubby is the one who is running away. So T's been suggesting I might envision life without hubby not so much to break us up (hubby's fear) but to get me to be less "needy" and more content with myself. To get me to accept that I am forgiving hubby and taking him as he is, knowing he has faults and that it's because I am mature enough to deal with them.
Keep your chin up--we're pulling for you!
