BTW, in the Prather book I mentioned to you, they say that they think a lot of pyschologists and therapists are what they call, "Separation psychologists" and they think their philosophy about helping people to break up is a bunch of bunk--people go right back to someone who will treat them the same way as the first person so they might have well stayed together, better for the kids, finances, everything, and tried to work things out.

Also, I've been told there is a real skill to being a couples counselor (told to me by my therapist in the hospital) and very few do it very well. It's wonderful when it works well. I can see where, if you have a lot of issues with your own self, it might be helpful to have a separate counselor just for yourself.