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Old May 04, 2011, 01:41 PM
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Originally Posted by unhappyguy View Post
This is a life pattern that needs to be broken. You can move to different cities and different countries but if you continue to follow a life pattern that does not create lasting friendships then the pattern of living a lonely life will just follow you wherever you go.

I never consider people I meet in pubs to be "friends" and am extremely wary of flirts. I avoid game players at all cost; life is not a game and I am not a toy. I only consider them friends unless I've known them for a long time and have shared meaningful personal talks / experiences with them. I have to know a person for months before I will open up. You seem to be more trusting - maybe too much so?

Have you considered counseling? You need to make some trustworthy friends - both female and male. Money may be tight but counseling appears to be an investment you cannot afford to pass by.
Hi Unhappy Guy, I did do counseling for about 3 months in US. but now that I'm here, it doesn't seem that much of an option as i'm really wary about them here.

I met a couple and they weirded me out, and its just not the same as in the US. here they just listen to you talk and thats about it...

I suppose i'm still learning how to trust people.. or who the right people are to trust?

When do you open up to someone? and what is considered personal and what is not?

Do you think i trusted too quickly in this situation? How can i pace that?

I would really appreciate any advice. I'm trying to learn how to build long lasting friendships.. with the right people..