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Originally Posted by Can't Stop Crying
My biggest fear is going back to work in a couple of days after a four month leave to a harsh, demanding, critical, abusive boss. I don't feel completely emotionally stable quite yet and he knows how to zoom in on my weaknesses...like shoot down my opinion in front of peers, walk away while I'm in the middle of a conversation with him that he started, belittle me in front of a group, give out recognition on group projects where I was the lead and not even mentioning my name....the list goes on and on, those are the minimal issues. I thought if I started with the small ones, I would build up the courage to face the bigger ones...
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I have walked in your shoes.
And also found out that going above my boss or to HR doesn't work. I tried a few times but felt even more frustrated.
So I am learning to employ some positive coping skills now. Sometimes I just listen rather than respond when he starts a conversation. If the boss cheers on someone else (even though I did the majority of the work), I join in and congratulate them too. I also have a sore tongue from biting it and not offering my opinion - and that isn't easy for me!
It has taken some months, but it is starting to work. And those above my boss are recognizing that I provide value to the company.
I wish you well. Try not to give up and try to stay focused on the good you are providing.
