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Originally Posted by online user
BTW, in the Prather book I mentioned to you, they say that they think a lot of pyschologists and therapists are what they call, "Separation psychologists" and they think their philosophy about helping people to break up is a bunch of bunk--people go right back to someone who will treat them the same way as the first person so they might have well stayed together, better for the kids, finances, everything, and tried to work things out.
Also, I've been told there is a real skill to being a couples counselor (told to me by my therapist in the hospital) and very few do it very well. It's wonderful when it works well. I can see where, if you have a lot of issues with your own self, it might be helpful to have a separate counselor just for yourself.
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I so agree with you. And if you break up and find someone else... even if he doesn't have the same problems, he will have different problems. No one is perfect... not even a therapist.
I have gasto- intestinal problems and one doctor was pushing surgery. I changed doctors. The second doctor said that there are two sets of problems. the problems I would have to live with if I don't have the surgery and the other problems I would have to live with if I chose the surgery. The doctor then let me chose and helped me manage the problems that I chose.
I think couples are the same way. All couples will have problems. We either decide to deal with them or we spend the rest of our lives single. but it should be us who chose which we want (not the doctor or therapist) and then the professional should help us improve the life we have chosen.
It is a pet peeve of mine. Can you tell?
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