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Originally Posted by Hope4joy
I'm very much the same way Sunrise. Let things unfold before I react.
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Yes, that is how I am. I'm very "measured." I like that you understand.
I also like that your name contains the words "hope" and "joy."
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Originally Posted by Hope4Joy
Perhaps it is his way of trying to incite anger so you express it. I hope there is a strategy to this because I find his behavior really unacceptable.
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I would actually be upset if I found out my T was playing games with me like that. He has never been devious in therapy and tried to incite me or pretend one thing while having an ulterior motive to get some reaction he desires from me. He is a very straightforward guy. Very genuine. I truly believe he is checking his emails simply because he wants to, not to get an angry reaction out of me. I'm not saying that excuses the behavior, but just that I am assured he is not using subterfuge.
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Originally Posted by googley
Please keep pressing it. As with any behavior, it may take time to shape it so he remembers each time.
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We'll see, googley. I don't want to shape his behavior. I don't want to be his mom. I think I've mentioned it to him enough for now.
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Originally Posted by rainbow8
I don't like your T's behavior either, but maybe he is just addicted to the computer! That's not good, but it happens to the best of us!  |
I think this is close to what's going on. I think he is addicted to being electronically connected.
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Originally Posted by rainbow8
If it were me, I'd tell him how much it bothers me until he gives me a satisfactory answer.
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I am not interested in delving into my T's motivations for doing this and getting answers that "satisfy" me. What I want is for the behavior to stop. I don't need answers at all. He has told me why he keeps the laptop next to him, but I don't think it is at all relevant to my concern. It doesn't matter to me why he wants it there.
It will be interesting to see what happens next time. I really like my T a lot and think he is a really good therapist. I hate to think of him in his office with client after client with that laptop sitting open next to him. It doesn't mesh with my idea of him as a good therapist. I'm having some difficulty with that.