I just wanted to add that even though it feels like t is now seeing 'the real you' it doesn't mean all the other parts of you he's seen (and loves) aren't the real you. You might be getting to the place where you're exposing the deepest most intimate part of who you are/who you think you are (which is pretty impressive to get to that point by the way) but that doesn't make any of the other parts of yourself less real. This is just like peeling down to the core of the onion but you wouldn't throw away the outer layers because they're still onion too (okay that maybe doesn't make any sense!). From what I've read your view of your core self is not the way other people see you but I think you will work through that with your t, it sounds like you have a good relationship.

SAWE - my t has expressed frustration sometimes as well but I think it's more frustration at my defences and at 'the process' not at me as a person. She knows I'm doing my best and sometimes it's just frustrating for both of us that things aren't moving as fast as we both would like. Maybe that's what your t meant?