Seems you and on are on the same page sidestepper - there's always 2 sides to war and no one really wins because lives are lost. I agree with you on feeling joy for a death - it's impossible for me to feel, no matter how much I dislike a person - I think of how am I appearing spiritually if I were to behave this way.

Last year my daughter found a toad near our pond - she kept it for 2 days but it died. She was sad and I didn't want to throw her loved toad in the garbage or over the fence. We put it in a shoe box and buried it in the rose garden and put a stone for a marker - there's respect and compassion for a living thing that was loved by someone, somewhere - this is what I think of before I feel joy in regards to death. I mean they are two opposite emotions - how do we feel them both at the same time? That's my opinion and reflection.