No, I have not felt jealousy. His wife sounds really nice, from his description. And also a strong woman. I like that about her, and I like that T appreciates that about her. I had a dream once that T organized a trip to Hawaii for a super cheap rate that the people going could only get if a large group went. So he was inviting all his friends and family, even me. So I went on the trip, and we camped in tents on the beach. It was beautiful. I rarely saw T, though. He was always off somewhere, doing something. But his wife was at camp a lot so we hung out together. In my dream, she was very nice, and we got along well.

My T also has an ex-wife that he has talked about. I have sometimes worried that "I better not act like T's ex-wife or he won't like me." (And he'll divorce me?) I was not jealous of her, though.

I have not met T's wife, but I have met some of his colleagues (some of whom he is friends with) and been with him and them outside of sessions a number of times (he played another professional role for me at one time). I was apprehensive before we did this as I kind of worried that things would be different between us "outside." But it was very reassuring to have T be just the same on the outside as in session. He interacted with other people in his same way. This helped me know beyond doubt that he was being genuine with me in session and not acting a certain "therapist way" just because that was a role he was playing. He is who he is.

I know what you mean. I would not want to bother my T either outside of his working hours. My T's phone rings to voicemail after office hours, which is good in that sense, because I know I can call at any time and not be bothering him. He will get the message when he is back at work.