Our T's work with us, one-on-one, not our parents, spouses, our work/school, or the other details of our life! They are only interested in what happens in session, with them; that's all they are present for!

After 8 years of seeing my T, she had to write me a check to pay back for an extra payment I'd made and wrote it out to me in my maiden name that she had known me as over 20 years previously! I'd been married 15 years by then and writing her checks for 8 years on my joint checking account with my married name and my husband's name!

Those details are important to us but don't have any bearing on our work with T because they're not part of that work! If your parents are/are not married/still/not still together, that has no bearing on your T and what you and he are working on. It's social chatter and details that are interesting (especially if you yourself are working on things relative to your parents and reporting about them to T) and might help with overall explanations and pictures of you but right now, right now with T and you, that is what is key. Whether you say at that moment that you are disappointed in T because he doesn't remember (as opposed to not telling him what you are feeling about him in the moment) or whether you shrug or carry away a "burden" for yourself because you don't communicate with the one you're with. That's what T is for; to help you learn to be yourself, fully, Now.

Also names matter. My past T misspelled my name in an email to me and it pissed me off because he wrote it as a another name. Anglicizing it to boot. Like let's say my name was Lu Shen-- and he wrote Lucy (that's not my name.. just an e.g.). It's arguably a huge difference in who you are. That wouldn't piss me off but someone I'm working closely and write checks for on a weekly basis should not be making that mistake.

this is hilarious and at the same time, sad!

sending safe hugs