I completely agree with you. Insensitivity to cultural or other differences should not be occurring with our T's. It's bad enough that it happens in RL.

If he has a problem with spelling or pronunciation he should have discussed his difficulties and you could have helped him with it and it would have shown some understanding.

We once had a foreign student living with us and his first name was not pronounceable by Americans and would have been slaughtered by using the American accent. We discussed with him what he would like to do given the challenges of inter-cultural communication.

He decided with our assistance to take another name that was similar and easy for Americans. He seemed to enjoy his 'new' name and now as an adult it is surprising that he still uses that 'new' name as his own back in his own country.

I am very sensitive about avoiding giving personal slights towards other people but I'm sure I am guilty of doing that unintentionally.

But having our T's do it or forget parts of our story is a tougher thing to handle. Although it has been mentioned that the interaction in the 'here and now' with T's is the essential part of our therapy (and I agree), it still is important, I believe, that they remember what we've told them about ourselves and our lives.