i'm sorry that it's so hard. It's really difficult , impossible feels more accurate, for me to accept two of my parts. i can relate so much.
So far i haven't found any professionals to help me. i hope that you have a good T that you trust. It's so hard.
My T is always saying how important communication with parts is but there's never been any help with getting communication going. It's something i've have to struggle alone with. i stay as far out of the way of these parts as i can. i'm sorry that there are parts that you're not able to and don't want to accept. It's not your fault- go gentle with yourselves and never force issues like this. i've found that even my T didn't know what was best. i hope that your T can help and that you never reach a time when you can't cope.
Take care.
peace,
kerria