Greenleaves, please don't take this the wrong way, but I'm starting to think I understand why you are lacking attention. That's nice that you stick up for her, but that IS selfish. I mean, I wasn't there or anything, but you said that her response is "what would *I* eat" and that she's not willing to give up her junk food in order to help you. That doesn't indicate to me that she's paying attention to YOU and what YOU need. I wonder how this crosses over to other areas of your life.

Anyway, I don't mean to implicate your mother. It just seems worth taking note of.