78--I can understand your disappointment with the way your T talked to you on the phone before she left and in her email to you. If you are used to something from your T, and then she deviates from what you expect, it hurts. I would feel the same way. I would obsess over why she didn't say "take care" or acknowlege my words. It would bother me a lot.

But, you already know she's not going on a pleasure trip, so I think she was preoccupied with all of that, and not purposely treating you poorly. In a perfect therapy world, our Ts would never disappoint us, and would never let their personal life interfere with our needs. Like when my T told me one of the reasons she won't answer all of my emails is that she's tired at night. What can I say? I don't care. I come first? No.

I know that looking at it logically doesn't always help because our feelings are still what they are. I hope that you can distract yourself from thinking too much about your T while she is gone. I hope you and your partner can work things out soon, too.