As a Birthmother to a now 31 year old woman, I became an instant grandmother 4 years ago when we found each other. I was forced to give her up at birth when I was 16. I've always left the ball in her court as to how much of a relationship she wanted with me and her half sisters. She grew up in a warm loving home with wonderful parents. Yes, I refer to her Adoptive parents as her parents, as they raised her, taught her to ride a bike, bandaged her knee when she fell, taught her to drive a car, walked her down the aisle when she got married. My instant grandsons, 7 & 10, call me by my first name. That's fine. After 28 years of not knowing if she was dead or alive, I'll take whatever I can from her and be happy.