i really want to be set straight--so PLEASE help me understand--if I've got distorted thinking I REALLY want to hear it, okay?

so in 1 of my other threads i talked about how my T cancelled several sessions in a row--and that has been so hard-- she usually MAKES time for me, even when she has a lot of stuff going on. she will go out of her way to make time to talk for a little bit, even if it isn't til 8 pm or something. she will even at least text me to say she's ok because she knows that me and the younger alters have terrible (its SO pathetic!! abandonment issues, but she also understands its because we have been treated so badly and abandoned by so many people we should have been able to trust)

on monday night (after several cancelled sessions) she texted me to say that she was exhausted, to hang tight

we have SO much going on--so much stuff has been happening the past month (deaths in the family, RA stuff, etc)--blah blah blah--we feel alone and abandoned that we're just desperate to talk to someone. we texted her back to say please, we need some help here--but she never answered back

we miss her so much we usually go see her twice a week. to go from that to nothing is a big challenge.

but no one else seems to think this is any big deal.

even 1 of her other clients is like "well, she'll be back"
other people she knows are like "its not HER job to make you feel better when she isn't around"
my husband (who is a therapist)(and not exactly mr.empathy) says to just be patient and wait for her to come back

but we just miss her so much...and there is so much to say... and we're so afraid she'll never come back, that she won't be our T anymore, how to people not worry about this stuff? is this just my severe abandonment stuff acting up? how am i SUPPOSED to be thinking about this? it feels like i have been left AGAIN! It feels like i can't trust her anymore. i am scared she's doesn't care anymore. etc etc And she knows we are having a terrible hard time but what if she doesn't care anymore and thats why she doesn't contact us like usual?

I HATE being this way!