He is only 13, and he is not currently doing any physical threats right now. He is definately bigger and stronger, but late last night he came in and said that he would go to the therapist every 3 weeks. It's not enough but it is a start. There is no help besides the police if he becomes threatening again. I will call them if it get's to that point. The panic is not just from fears about him, I have been through several traumas myself resulting in my PTSD (Post-Traumatic-Stress- Disorder) and I am sure that I do anticipate the worst. but I know it is not good for either of us for him to get out of control. Right now it's verbal insults and yelling, but I went through last year calling everyone in the county to see what I could do, and I have done all of that. But there are only bad options if he won't go to counselling. The nearest adolescent unit is 2 hours away. -ariel