Hi folks,

I am unemployed by choice, and my experience has been that I have been able to work for a time (sometimes as long as 7yrs) before the illness took me down again. I have usually resigned from jobs rather than go through the 'sick leave' process. It has been a bumpy ride. I also have a whole string of vocational and professional qualifications from different jobs, which I don't make use of. It's laughable.

I would say that we need to evaluate what our abilities are and try to find a lifestyle which will allow us to live on some kind of even keel. If we can't be honest with an employer (which I never have) we have to at least be honest with ourselves. My big downfall has been comparing myself with able people, and trying to compete when I haven't a hope in hell. More than once I have been promoted and then quickly resigned to get out of the stress and responsibility, to avoid the rising anxiety and panic symptoms.

I think we need to know what we are capable of.

Regarding what we say to people, that has always been sticky. I have always had serious hobbies, so I just say I do something along those lines, 'my own boss' kind of thing. Now I'm older I say that I am early retired and that is much easier, although even then people pry.

Often I find myself looking at training courses and stuff, but I know that it won't happen. I've been there and got the teeshirt! Now it's time to face the reality without flinching.

The upside is that my time is my own.

Lavendera, I would say to do what feels best for you. That's all I can suggest.

Cheers, M