You did a good thing by stepping back and evaluating where your relationship is--you certainly don't want to get married just to end it in divorce. This is a case where you might want to seek premarital counseling, or at the very least, find a workbook for couples. This can help you identify your strengths and weaknesses are as a couple and can help you work through your problem areas--and if you can't work through them and can't live with them, then you know what has to happen in the relationship. My husband and I went through a workbook before we got married, and it helped us a lot!